Author Topic: so i messed up pretty bad... (Read 8077 times)

Kilokk · « **on:** January 06, 2010, 11:09:26 PM »

well i lied to my girl (twas quite a big lie) and she found out. i was actually planning on telling her about it, but she found out before i could. we were working to go back to normal... but i :censored:ing lied again! THE SAME GOD DAMN STORY! i dont know what to do about this guys... im a :censored:ing moron...

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #1 on:** January 06, 2010, 11:51:34 PM »

what was the lie? did you cheat on her or something?

Kilokk · « **Reply #2 on:** January 06, 2010, 11:53:42 PM »

dk if you remember the topic from a few months ago, when i wanted to leave her from another girl. we got back together after i banged the other chick, and i lied about what we did... she started talking to the girl, (who broke up with her man because she still likes me and that my fault apparently) and the truth came out literally RIGHT before i told her... and then i tried to lie to her again without realizing it >.<

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #3 on:** January 06, 2010, 11:58:53 PM »

lol, damn, at least you didn't cheat on her tho... don't know what to tell ya man...

Kilokk · « **Reply #4 on:** January 07, 2010, 12:01:52 AM »

lol i hope that we can work this out...

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #5 on:** January 07, 2010, 12:04:35 AM »

don't see why you wouldn't be able to, not really a deal breaker...

Kilokk · « **Reply #6 on:** January 07, 2010, 12:07:49 AM »

she REALLY hates liars...

Luke · « **Reply #7 on:** January 07, 2010, 12:55:42 AM »

You REALLY brang this upon yourself, and you should REALLY get out of it your OWN way.

Kilokk · « **Reply #8 on:** January 07, 2010, 01:03:44 AM »

and now someone seems to have killed themselves...

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #9 on:** January 07, 2010, 02:29:38 AM »

who did? your girlfriend?

just be fair to her, if she cant accept the truth than it's not worth it.

Kilokk · « **Reply #10 on:** January 07, 2010, 02:49:26 AM »

no the other girls boyfriend... he couldnt accept that she wanted me while she was with him... and she blames me for that. how is who she likes my fault?

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #11 on:** January 07, 2010, 03:04:31 AM »

she made the choice to have sex with you, so dont blame yourself.

and the dude who killed himself is a

ing retard, why the hell kill yourself because of love.
thats jsut stupid.

PspKicks316 · « **Reply #12 on:** January 07, 2010, 03:42:42 AM »

The other girls boyfriend should be taken out of the picture, and it seems he has.
Obviously he was doing something wrong and you were doing something right to have her like you over him. +1, be happy for that one. Seriously.
I don't remember if you said you were at a party/drunk or not...which does change things.
If your girl can't handle the fact that you had sex with someone while you guys were broken up, then she's not worth the time and stress she'll give you.
My advice would be go for the other girl. She likes you, you can cheer her up about her old boyfriend, and you guys can have it good.
Your "girl" needs to grow up. This is the real world and things happen. She lost you for that time, and you took that as an advantage to hook up with the other girl. That's neither your fault or the other girls. Your girl lost her chance, it's her fault and she should be mad/upset at herself and not you. If she wants you bad enough that she's that upset about this, then she should take you back anyway.

All else fails, tell her you got drugged with roofies and were at a party drunk off your ass and lied to protect her feelings.

OR, be that guy who shows her this thread to show her you care enough about her that you throw yourself out in public asking for advice and help. It works.

Kilokk · « **Reply #13 on:** January 07, 2010, 04:25:54 AM »

lol funny enough she is a member of acidmods, but she hasnt been on here in months (only made like 3 posts but meh) and i want the other girl about as much as i want bubonic plague. i think everything is ok, i will keep you guys posted...

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #14 on:** January 07, 2010, 05:10:38 AM »

drink beer, it helps.

Modded Matt · « **Reply #15 on:** January 07, 2010, 05:14:22 AM »

dont use cesored words in a title. this is a family site even though the word did not come through, it is completly clear what your saying.

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #16 on:** January 07, 2010, 09:25:42 AM »

you can't be serious that this other chick's ex-boyfriend actually committed suicide... really?

Kilokk · « **Reply #17 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:10:32 AM »

seems that way... paramedics didnt think he would make it, though he never stopped breathing, they said he lost too much blood...

sorry about that matt... it was just one HELL of a night when i posted this...

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #18 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:11:42 AM »

yeh, its kinda lame that he killed himself for a girlfriend.
ive had like 6 girlsfriend from the age of 15. you dont see mee crying or commiting suiecide when they have sex with an other dude. i dont take it that serious.

maybe a strange question but how did he do it?

Kilokk · « **Reply #19 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:13:51 AM »

in short... the way a true emo would >.>

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #20 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:22:53 AM »

Quote from: dedafmonteur on January 07, 2010, 10:11:42 AM

you dont see mee crying or commiting suiecide when they have sex with an other dude. i dont take it that serious.

No crying, but I hear you whine about it all the time...

He'll live if he slit his wrists, most cutters cut the in wrong direction... most people who attempt suicide don't really want to die they just want the attention...

one last thing... totally an opinion... emo kids are the gayest kids i've ever met in my life (and that's saying something cause i've known a lot of LARP kids and goth kids), but god damned if the fashion isn't hot as

on chicks... lol

Kilokk · « **Reply #21 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:28:04 AM »

honestly its become a turn off as of late... there is so much drama in my life since i have met these people...

idk if he cut it the right way or not, but the wounds were deep enough to make him pass out, and idk if they stopped the bleeding in time...

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #22 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:31:18 AM »

omg, thats so.....

i dont get it why people do this to themselves...

Kilokk · « **Reply #23 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:32:02 AM »

i honestly dont get it either...

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #24 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:34:34 AM »

@ jrf, thats ebcause i reaslly like a girl and its taking way to long...lol

@ kilokk, my mother told me that if he really passed out it means that he lost so much blood his body went into a shock. if he didnt get blood and help fast than yes, he will die.

my mother worked in the hospital for 15 years (first emergency)

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #25 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:44:36 AM »

Quote from: Kilokk on January 07, 2010, 10:28:04 AM

honestly its become a turn off as of late... there is so much drama in my life since i have met these people...

idk if he cut it the right way or not, but the wounds were deep enough to make him pass out, and idk if they stopped the bleeding in time...

emo kids are lame (and I mean the actual attitude not the fashion, the fashion is kinda lame too...) and take

way to freakin serious... drama is lame, high school drama is even lamer (you'll realize in hindsight when you're out of school just how lame it really was), ditch those people they're not worth the hassle and drama...

as for blood loss, the average adult has around 8-10 pints of blood in their body. you can loose around 15% and not notice any effect (hence why you can donate a pint and not have any ill effect) at around 25-30% you'll start to go into shock (hence why giving 2 pints makes you feel woozy and makes you look a little pale and get cold) at around 30-40% you will be in shock, past 40% loss you will be in shock and your body can not recover on it's own, you will need medical attention quickly or you will die, but it is recoverable with medical attention... now what will make you pass out is not the blood loss but the loss of blood pressure, for some it takes very little blood loss (like 10%) for others about 30%...

Quote from: dedafmonteur on January 07, 2010, 10:34:34 AM

@ jrf, thats ebcause i reaslly like a girl and its taking way to long...lol

I don't care what the reason is, you still whine about it like a little girl...

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #26 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:50:11 AM »

Quote from: jrfhoutx on January 07, 2010, 10:44:36 AM

I don't care what the reason is, you still whine about it like a little girl...

show me some love dude:(

rofl im kidding ill stop whining, not that i did the last few days

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #27 on:** January 07, 2010, 10:52:15 AM »

Nothing but love baby...

I'm just messing with you dude, you know me...

lol

Kilokk · « **Reply #28 on:** January 07, 2010, 11:06:24 AM »

trust me, i have known the lame-ness of highschool drama since junior high...

SN!P3R · « **Reply #29 on:** January 07, 2010, 11:39:12 AM »

/thread

move along everyone, nothing to see here

PspKicks316 · « **Reply #30 on:** January 07, 2010, 12:21:23 PM »

Quote from: SN!P3R on January 07, 2010, 11:39:12 AM

/thread

move along everyone, nothing to see here

This.

Kilokk · « **Reply #31 on:** January 07, 2010, 12:57:10 PM »

lol kicks and sn!per. that made me laugh a bit ^_^

in other news, the guy is going to be ok.

ing paramedics didnt know what they were talking about.

FreeK- Guys, watch your language. this is still a family site, and even thought it might not seem like theres kids reading....there most likely is.

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #32 on:** January 07, 2010, 01:04:39 PM »

see, stupid emo kids just want attention... in all seriousness, glad he's ok though, sucks to have to go through that for any reason...

Kilokk · « **Reply #33 on:** January 07, 2010, 02:29:40 PM »

i have learned to deal with all this kind of

long ago so its not to big a deal for me,.

: your wish is my command master.

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #34 on:** January 07, 2010, 02:59:30 PM »

aw man i am glad he is ok.

better?

geez.

Kilokk · « **Reply #35 on:** January 07, 2010, 03:05:18 PM »

no dude i am not saying dont think that way or anything like that, but the first time i went through a suicide i was rather emotional and i know that i would have flipped out if you had said it then. i am just saying that at times like these its best to keep your opinions to yourself and just be supportive.

if you dont have anything nice to say sort of thing ya know?

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #36 on:** January 07, 2010, 03:13:08 PM »

No dude, this really gets me mad. it's my opinion and i am allowed to say it. like i said in my post i appologize upfront, so i didnt do anything wrong.

ive seen 2 people jump infront of the train.
my cure: move on, you cant help them anymore

you dont see me making a topic because my friend got shot in the head 8 years ago,i have nightmares about it evry single day but you dont see me whining.

kilokk your a nice dude, but i apollogized like 5 times upfront in that one post, you have to understand i was just saying what i think.

and btw, this is spam&chat.

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #37 on:** January 07, 2010, 03:21:06 PM »

Quote from: Kilokk on January 07, 2010, 03:05:18 PM

no dude i am not saying dont think that way or anything like that, but the first time i went through a suicide i was rather emotional and i know that i would have flipped out if you had said it then. i am just saying that at times like these its best to keep your opinions to yourself and just be supportive.

if you dont have anything nice to say sort of thing ya know?

being that you're an american, who are you to deny anyone their freedom of speech and their right to their own personal opinion and right to speak it? that's kinda what this country is all about. if you don't like someones opinion then ignore it and stfu about it. if you can't handle it that's your problem not theirs.

that's the kind of hipocrisy that pisses of the rest of the world and makes them dislike americans. "I have the right to say what I want when I want but you don't"?... that kind of attitude is BS

edit in red

Reaper · « **Reply #38 on:** January 07, 2010, 05:32:50 PM »

Quote from: jrfhoutx on January 07, 2010, 03:21:06 PM

being that you're an american, who are you to deny anyone their freedom of speech and their right to their own personal opinion and right to speak it? that's kinda what this country is all about. if you don't like someones opinion then ignore it and stfu about it. if you can't handle it that's your problem not theirs.

that's the kind of hipocrisy that pisses of the rest of the world and makes them dislike americans. "I have the right to say what I want when I want but you don't"... its BS

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jrfhoutx · « **Reply #39 on:** January 07, 2010, 07:15:59 PM »

Respect is something that is earned and is given to those who have earned it. No one just flat out deserves respect and they don't get it unless they have earned it. Therefore, if you want people to respect you then you have to earn it.

VoX · « **Reply #40 on:** January 07, 2010, 07:33:23 PM »

Erg. Suicide is so obnoxious and redundant. I've got no doubt that all of us in this thread have been through a bad breakup and/or a death and no doubt we are all living (durr). We all have different coping mechanisms which work for us and this has been the same through centuries. For me it's to write a song or create a piece of art based upon the strong emotion I'm feeling and that works great for me. Something has gone wrong along the lines with the Emo movement, from an outside perspective it seems as if they find any excuse to be angry with their life, which is annoying but does no harm, but then they self-inflict because of that. I'm all for personal coping mechanisms but that is disgusting and as bad as running away from your problems instead of solving them. Some of you may point out that there is Emo music but everybody knows it's just as obnoxious as the slitting. You can dislike somebody because of the fad they're in but you can't stop them because it's their choice but when that fad becomes dangerous and could possibly kill them, well that is the time to step in.

I know it may be hard to get over but you can't blame yourself for this, personally I would distance myself from everything for a while and have some time to think. Think about what has happened and then move on.

TwisTtheTwiTcH · « **Reply #41 on:** January 07, 2010, 07:38:34 PM »

Disclaimer: If you are a strongly originated person, or enjoy making rude or sarcastic remarks to things you disagree with then DO NOT click on the spoiler. I do not want any drama so if you fall into the above mentioned criteria do not continue to read my post. Understand, I will not be flamed for what has been said below if you decide to click the button. You accept responsibility for and controlling your own reaction and emotions.

[spoiler]Wow after reading this topic it sort of makes me lose a little bit more faith in humanity. It is interesting however to hear such uneducated opinions and terminology. The fact that there are hundreds upon hundreds of factors behind taking that final step and actually attempting to end your own existence. You never and you will never know the whole story behind another persons actions. Perhaps what was going on in the boyfriends life finally became so much for him that he no longer had the ability to deal with his feelings. Maybe he has a chemical unbalance and is really depressed and standard medication hadn't helped any. Maybe he actually cared about the girl. Perhaps as always, there were more factors than any of you know. It is however quite amusing to see such... Blind and well put shortly ignorant responses to something that is actually a serious matter. So if you could all please either drop the topic or go back to talking about lying to girl friends and stop flaming somebody that is obviously in the wrong mental state it would be quite appreciated. Because god knows you'd be very displeased if half the responses which have been made were addressed toward you or somebody close. Now tell me I am wrong that if you did it you would deserve being flamed and not mind. Or flame me for saying god. Because that seems like such a more deserving and important topic than having no human compassion and lacking all possible morals even convicted prisoners have.[/spoiler]

That said, tell your girlfriend you won't lie to her and instead of simply telling her that back it up with action. Tell her you hope she is able to forgive you and that you don't expect her to forget your mistakes and you know it will take time to earn her forgiveness. I hope the other girl's boyfriend is safe and I wish him and his family through this tough time.

-TwisT

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #42 on:** January 07, 2010, 08:56:13 PM »

No disclaimer other than to say that if you don't like what I have to say then just disregard it.

[spoiler]First off I say what you want about me, it's not going to change my opinion of you or myself and it certainly won't hurt my feelings, let alone make me displeased about the things anyone says, because as I've said before everyone is entitled to their opinion and the right to speak it regardless of what that is.

Now, I'm not flaming you or anything just pointing out the contradiction in what you were saying... but really? after just saying that we have no idea what's going on in someone else's life and head and that we shouldn't make such generalized statements because we don't know these things, and then you are going to make the statement that we are guilty of "having no human compassion and lacking all possible morals even convicted prisoners have"? really? so you're going to say that we are all ignorant, uncompassionate souls just because you disagree with our personal feelings on the matter? and let me get this straight, you know that all convicted prisoners have compassion and good morals? if that's not a sweeping generalization I don't know what is. last I checked most (and I say most because this does not apply to all) convicted prisoners have been convicted because they are guilty of a crime which has shown that they have questionable compassion and morals... [/spoiler]

SN!P3R · « **Reply #43 on:** January 07, 2010, 08:59:35 PM »

JESUS, NO ONE UNDERSTANDS WHAT /THREAD IS?!

/cruise control

/post

/thread

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #44 on:** January 07, 2010, 09:12:12 PM »

no, I totally understand what it means... I'd have

or deleted the thread a while ago if I were able, but I don't have the authority to do so, so instead I simply speak my mind...

TwisTtheTwiTcH · « **Reply #45 on:** January 07, 2010, 09:26:09 PM »

Your response was interesting jrfhoutx although my statement wasn't directed toward any one individual. I've been on the other side of the fence. Half of what people are saying is messed up. If they'd take more than twenty seconds to rethink what is going on from various points of view they might not come off as heartless. Although half of what has been said in this topic does belong here in spam & chat because over half of it is trash. I'll even include my opinion in that. Who am I? It isn't as if I am magically special or that what I say matters. I don't care how what I've said is right or wrong. Nor do I think what I said matters to anybody besides myself. I am not asking or expecting anybody to magically agree with me. It isn't for my sake that I said anything in this thread. If everybody that has posted before me PMs me and asks I will happily delete what I said.

-TwisT

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #46 on:** January 07, 2010, 09:49:28 PM »

don't delete what you've said regardless of what others think, everyone is entitled to their opinion, and everyone is entitled to their opinion of that opinion, and so on... at least that's how I feel about it...

I was not saying that it was directed at anyone in particular, or that it's right or wrong. I was just pointing out the contradiction in saying that people shouldn't make generalized statements without knowing the circumstances but then making generalized statements without knowing the circumstances.

yes most of this discussion does belong here in spam and chat because it's garbage and that's why it's here.

yes most of it sounds really harsh, but the reality of the situation is that this is a touchy subject and feelings on the matter run strong. therefore people word things strongly and are usually quick to react without thinking about the things they say. and some people just don't care what they say or how others feel about what they say. and because all the interaction between people is through writing it is much more difficult to infer inflection.

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #47 on:** January 08, 2010, 01:08:16 AM »

I am verry commited to opinions. over here evryone can say what he wants as long its not discriminating. that is what i was trying to do here to but within 5 min. i was called harsh and cruel because i said maybe it was better for the dude to die. its my opinion, i mean what is wrong about that?

I allways say how i feel and what i think. sometimes its not good to do that, i know but it just happends. if peope cant respect the way i am/act than why feel sad for them if something happend. it needs to come from both sides (like they say over here).

i agree with twist, some people need to think before they act, i make loads of retardish posts to but thats how i am, but when i need to be serious i will.

so yeh....

Kilokk · « **Reply #48 on:** January 08, 2010, 01:13:08 AM »

sorry

i didnt mean to offend you man... i was only saying that SOME would find it harsh... sorry i wasnt clear about it. you are right, its your opinion and no one can say ANYTHING about it. sorry

.

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #49 on:** January 08, 2010, 01:16:29 AM »

Quote from: Kilokk on January 08, 2010, 01:13:08 AM

sorry i didnt mean to offend you man... i was only saying that SOME would find it harsh... sorry i wasnt clear about it. you are right, its your opinion and no one can say ANYTHING about it. sorry .

it's ok, blame canada:P

Kilokk · « **Reply #50 on:** January 08, 2010, 01:17:47 AM »

done. i feel better now XD

jrfhoutx · « **Reply #51 on:** January 08, 2010, 05:12:38 AM »

LOCK?

dedafmonteur · « **Reply #52 on:** January 08, 2010, 05:13:34 AM »

lock:)

Reaper · « **Reply #53 on:** January 08, 2010, 07:08:51 PM »

posting in an epic thread

inb4 lock

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