Spend time with family, thats #1, Sorry lol-russ, things happen that are out of our controll, thats one of them unfortunately, there is hate and sorrow in this world and people blame and use god for it to be justified. Its wrong, Deda, good luck and spend as much time as possible with her, Trust me, i wish i could do it with my grand father who died in Iran and we couldnt go see him one last time because of the damn Immigration laws..